A bride-to-be is being shamed online after confessing she’d uninvited her step-dad from her wedding – which he paid for – because her brothers threatened not to come
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A bride-to-be has found herself in a devastating situation just weeks before her wedding, after her two brothers refused to come if their step-dad is there.
The woman, 25, and her brothers, 30, went through a rough time when their parents divorced, and when their mum remarried, the brothers didn’t want anything to do with her husband, so a relationship was never established.
However, the bride-to-be still lived with her mum and therefore her husband too, and during that time they established a good relationship.
“My step-dad did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in five weeks time and I’m very grateful for that though this was his decision,” she wrote on Reddit’s AITA forum.
“I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our step-dad was going to be there, they said they might not come. They took time to think then gave me an ultimatum saying that if our step-dad is coming then they won’t be. I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn.”
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After discussing the issue with her husband-to-be, the woman decided she had no choice but to “politely uninvite” her step-dad, so she decided to break the news to him via email.
“Later I got a call from my mom yelling at me, calling me hurtful stuff saying I was acting like an ungrateful b**** by excluding her husband from the wedding after everything he’s done for me,” she continued.
“I told her that my brothers threatened not to come which pushed me to make this difficult decision because if it was for me I’d have everyone there. She cussed me out for prioritising my hateful and cold-hearted brothers over my step-dad and showing him that I’m not worthy of his grace which was really really hurtful for me to hear.”
The woman then turned to Reddit question whether she’d made the wrong decision in siding with her brothers an uninviting her step-dad.
“Your step-dad obviously cares about you and is PAYING for your wedding. He is in no way the problem here. Your brothers are being childish and are the ones you can’t just get along to be there for their sister’s wedding without being petulant little babies about it,” one Reddit user commented.
“You should reinvite your step dad and let your brothers know that they after still welcome but that if they don’t come they only have themselves to blame.”
“Unless there’s more to his than meets the eye, they seem to have no legit reason for disliking your stepdad other than the fact that he is not your actual dad,” another added. “He has been good to you, and I’m not surprised your mum is raging. I can’t imagine the hurt your stepdad must be feeling right now.”
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